About Dating Abuse

Dating Abuse and Technology

According to one study1:

  • 10% of teens claim they have been threatened physically via email, IM, text, chat, etc.
  • 1 in 3 teens who have been in a relationship say they’ve been text messaged 10, 20, or 30 times an hour by a partner finding out where they are, what they’re doing, or who they’re with.
  • 19% say that their partner has used a cell phone or the internet to spread rumors about them.
  • 1 in 6 teens in a relationship (16%) claim their partner has actually bought a cell phone or minutes for them.

Technology (such as computers, cell phones, web cams, GPS devices, etc.) has made everyday life easier for us in a lot of ways, but it has also made it easier for people to monitor, track, and control you.

Person texting from a cell phone.

Has This Happened To You?

There are things you can do to enhance your safety when using technology. Think about:

  • Keep passwords private and change them often. Don’t use passwords that are easy to figure out, like your pet’s name or important dates.
  • Use the privacy settings on sites like Facebook.
    • Check privacy settings often to make sure the settings haven’t changed.
    • Think about who is on your friends list and remember that people who are friends of your friends might be able to see your posts
  • Delete the history and “cookies” from your web browser from time to time so it is harder to track your on-line activity.
  • Contact your cell phone company to have a phone number blocked if you are getting harassing calls or text messages.

RememberBE CAREFUL if you make changes to how you use technology while you are being abused and/or stalked because it can increase danger for you if your partner realizes what you are doing. It’s a good idea to talk to an advocate before making changes to be sure you are doing things in the safest way possible.

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  1. Liz Claiborne, Inc. study, “Tech Abuse in Teen Relationships Study,” conducted by Teenage Research Unlimited, January 2007